Why is talking to yourself so important? And A Record Discount!

Why is talking to yourself so important?

I was in the post office one day when the rain outside was doing a great impersonation of Niagara Falls.

It wasn’t just raining it was a deluge, which basically means that the wind and sun had scooped up a good wedge of the North Atlantic and the North Sea and had managed to drag the billion gallons a few hundred miles south to Devon and then decided to throw the bloody lot down at once. Mostly on the people who needed to buy a stamp.

Now I’m in the que when this little and presumably old lady came tottering in. I guessed she was either old or her she’d had her face out in the water too long.

We are not talking the wrinkles you get on your finger tips in the bath here. This was more like the satellite Google Map of the high Alps.

Any way in she tottered holding on to one of those formula one walking frames. You know the ones with the breaks to slow them down when they are cornering?

Anyway, she short of shook herself a bit like a dog and managed to wet everything inside the shop that the roof had otherwise been keeping dry, and then she spoke the classic mantra of the terminably weather obsessed.

“Isn’t the weather miserable?” she asked of no one in particular and everyone in general.

“No”, I replied, “The weather is the weather, you’re the one that’s miserable.”

Now I know what you are thinking. You’re thinking I was being sarcastic and that she didn’t actually mean that the weather was fed up and was taking prozac.

You are thinking that the words she spoke were, well, just words, and that even though I had exhibited a high degree of metrological knowledge and sartorial observation, I was just gobbling off to an old lady for no reason other than because I could.

Well yes, it was partiality that but it was mostly because when we talk to ourselves and to others about ourselves if we start to listen then we get two things. One, we get the picture of what we project to the outside world and two, and way more important, we get what we think of ourselves inside. What we really think.

Everyday you talk to yourself and about yourself.

You affirm your beliefs, explain your behaviour, predict your future. You persuade, cajole, order and suggest stuff constantly and consistently.

To Yourself and that’s what makes you – You.

And you are very good at being you.

For this reason alone you can be very good at being the you, YOU really want to be.

And all you need to do is to use the techniques of self seductive suggestion that you are using right now to keep you where you are.

Imagine working with the worlds greatest hypnotist and suggestionist all the time with no trance or need for swinging watches or staring eyeballs.

Well you can, because that’s you that is.

SELFSEDUCTION steps
Think have a thought – doesn’t need to be ‘positive’ but it should be producetive.

Imagine – pretend make up, create, whenever you get a great thunk, back that up with detail and desire.

Listen – to yourself, what are you telling the world about you and what are you telling yourself to be?

Repair – When you say something bad about yourself repair it, reverse it. Put it right because no one else will or can.

Don’t wait! – Repair it as it happens, even in the middle of a conversation.

Say it out loud – don’t internalise it. You talk to yourself out loud when you are alone because self suggestion is strongest done that way.

Use GOOD words – Good words like will, have, now, can, always, definitely, yes.

Use EMOTIVE words – like awesome, fantastic, cool, sexy, amazing.

Get emotional – feel the words, it’s great seeing pictures but your mind will respond best to feelings so will your brain as it produces dopamine and endorphins.

Habitual ritual – do it all the time. You talk to yourself all the time anyway but make self suggestion really useful by repeating it in a ‘special’ set out to do this thing way. Then it works a bit like saying preyers did when you were a kid. And the same thing is listening – You are.

Using Rapid Repetition – a little trick I developed on my one day training – the more you say the more it works.

One thing at a time – change one thing then move on. Don’t spread the attention, that would be like having a 1 on 1 with the population of Wolverhampton all at once.

The 30 day rule – most habits take around 30 days to acquire and bed in according to Nasa, although this isn’t rocket science it seems to work best that way.

Give yourself believable suggestions – don’t tell yourself you can fly, walk on water, run through brick walls or live beneath the sea without breathing gear. Your mind might just believe you and that could cause shit loads of problems.

Make it Seductive – Seduction:-
Something that tempts or attracts, beguiles or persuades.
The process of deliberately enticing a person into an act.

Self Seduction:-
Enticing and cajoling oneself into pleasant and rewarding behaviours and beliefs.

Suggestion:-
The process of inducing a thought, sensation, or action in a receptive person without giving rise to reflection in the recipient.

Autosuggestion:-
Suggestion arising from oneself, as the repetition of verbal messages as a means of changing behaviour.

I’m thinking of running a teleseminar on Self Seduction if enough people would be prepared to pay a ridiculously small fee for virtual seats and get an up close and personal Q & A.

To get me to make this a definite go just comment below and say yes.

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A Record discount.

I had a great e-mail this week from a student who on the way back home from the advanced hypnosis training in Bristol applied just one small part of my Svengali System with the taxi driver who she didn’t really understand.

Even through the breakdown in understanding due to English not being a primary language, the result she got was a very happy taxi driver and a discount!

Now that shocked me. I knew this stuff was good but everyone knows taxi drivers almost hold you to ransom for a tip. To get a discount must be a record.

I just love it when the plan comes together.

If you haven’t got it yet the book based on the online Svengali System training, “How to make friends with yourself and Influence people” is on Amazon.

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